The Decisions People Make – Are They To Please Others Or Are They Decisive?

September 5, 2014, by Ken Jorgustin

Decisions of your Life

We are faced with countless decisions every day of our lives. Many of them are minor or trivial while others are major and potentially life altering.

Today’s modern world is fast. You need more than just situational awareness to successfully navigate through life. You need to make decisions, and you need to make the right decisions – at least to the best of your ability.

Choosing to do nothing, or to please others, or to be middle of the road, will put you at the mercy of others. Being decisive, assertive, dynamic, energetic and enthusiastic will put you in the drivers seat of your own life…


 
People behave differently in how they handle decisions or how they stand on an issue. You might say that most people (how they make decisions) can be stereotyped into one of the following five categories.

 

Do Nothing

Some people are so afraid of making a decision, that they can’t take decisive action. They do nothing. Like a leaf blowing in the wind, they often follow the least path of resistance. Decision making for them is often very stressful. They may feel somewhat numb inside, going through life in a sort of fog. It can be a dangerous state of mind which can lead to a crash.

Please Others

These people just want to please others and try to avoid conflict by being passive in a non-assertive way. However by not facing or dealing truthfully or honestly with their decisions and issues, they become subject to emotional outbursts that are being covered up. Externally, this person may appear to be pleasant and quiet, yet often is irritated and frustrated on the inside.

Middle of the Road

By refusing to take a stand one way or the other, you never know the position of the people in this category. Some play the ‘politically correct’ game while sitting in the middle on issues. They may be afraid to express their opinion, don’t have an opinion, or simply don’t care. It is difficult to tell how they see things. Those who stay in the middle of the road will eventually be run over.

Decisive, Assertive

You know where these people stand on issues. They express their opinion and are not afraid to do so. They don’t ‘hint’ at their thoughts, opinions or decisions. They may hurt some feelings on occasion, but the beneficial productive results of knowing and expressing what they believe in a positive assertive manner will often smooth things over. The opposite is also true (they can be head-strong even while being wrong, or even @-holes).

Dynamic, Energetic, Enthusiastic

Other people enjoy being around them. They posses a high level of personal power and are energetic decision makers who KNOW the right decision. They can be charismatic, they are confident, positive, good communicators and natural leaders.

 

 
The next time you find yourself in a conversation involving issues that are important to you, instead of keeping it inside (if you’re that type), consider expressing your viewpoint. When you face decisions, don’t ignore them. Just decide the best you can.

Always look forward. Once a decision has been made, there’s no turning back. Deal with it and keep moving ahead. You can fix things if you need to, so don’t worry so much about it.

When it comes to survival and preparedness, good decision making skills are very important. The very fact that you’re of a preparedness mindset or are a prepper, means that you’ve decided to take action and take matters into your own hands. Maybe that’s part of the problem when it comes to others who won’t accept personal responsibility – they are either the ‘Do Nothing’ or ‘Please Others’ or ‘Middle of the Road’ type…

What do you think?