How To Get Your Wife On-board With Prepping
So lets say that you are completely on-board with prepping but you are frustrated because your wife (UPDATE: or husband 😉 ) is not. What do you do?
Here are a few thoughts:
Are there money issues?
Nearly everyone’s budget is tight these days. If your budget is stretched too thin, could this be an issue with your wife (or husband) regarding your preparedness acquisitions?
Then don’t start with the expensive projects (and don’t even talk about them yet 😉 ).
Start small if you have to. It’s fairly easy to slowly build a deeper food pantry by simply buying a bit extra each time you go to the grocery store (for example).
Remember that being prepared is largely about the ability to adapt with the resources that you have on-hand. It’s not all about the ‘stuff’ (although it helps).
Does she stereotype ‘preppers’?
Lots of people have warped images of what prepping is, or what preppers are, or what preppers do. This is largely to do with how the mainstream media has portrayed the ideology and lifestyle of preppers.
The mainstream sadly looks upon this mindset and behavior as being ‘odd’ or even suspicious. If this stereotype is part of the problem (maybe she’s concerned what others may think) then one solution is to assure that you both will keep a low profile about your prepping activities.
Although it’s sad to say it – don’t go telling people (even though you may be excited or proud about what you are doing).
Does she have ‘normalcy bias”?
Things are good, so they will always be good. Right? This is normalcy bias. Most people have it to one extent or another. This condition makes it difficult to foresee risks and therefore nearly impossible to prepare for them.
Shedding one’s normalcy bias involves critical thinking, logic and common sense. Thinking outside the box. The realization that some ‘things’ could go wrong in an instant, while other bad ‘things’ progress more slowly. If she has normalcy bias, then maybe it will help by pointing out examples of things that could go wrong or have gone wrong in the past – and the things that you can do to prepare and to offset some of those things.
If you can get her (or him) to read this book, it might do the trick…
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Does she recognize risks?
The ability to recognize risks can be difficult. Some risks are clear and obvious. But there are MANY risks that are hidden from plain view, some near and some far, and some of them potentially VERY impacting.
For example we assume that the many systems within our infrastructure will continue to function normally without disruption. We assume that those who manage and control these systems will always have our best interests in mind. Most assume that .gov will always be there for a rescue or will always do the right thing. We assume that there will always be a safety net.
You might want to throw out some examples or ‘what if’ scenarios… losing a job, a major medical issue, a localized disaster (natural or otherwise). Etc. Start with the risks that may seem more likely to occur and point them out. Start with the smaller risks before you scare the $hit out of her with the ‘real big’ systemic risks of the world 😉
Caught up in the system?
‘The system’ is designed to shape your lifestyle into a tax-paying worker-bee who is programmed to borrow and spend. While there’s no escaping taxes and while most of us need to ‘work’ to earn currency ‘for exchange of goods and services, we do have the ability to control it and to avoid a lifestyle of ‘keeping up with the Joneses’.
The system shapes our priorities through the mainstream bombardment of marketing and messaging, and it can be very difficult to see and get past it. We are ‘programmed’ from cradle to grave.
Maybe the priorities are wrong and you need to motivate your wife (or husband) into working towards more practical assets that align better with self-sufficiency and independence instead of working towards the latest fashions, new cars, or the McMansion…
A career person?
Some people place a very high priority on their working career and their career goals – leaving little or no time for other things. One’s age and stage-of-life will often influence this. While a constant drive towards a higher paying career objective will often reap greater financial rewards, it often (always?) sacrifices most of one’s time to do so. Some people are perfectly happy with this – because their career IS their life. Others try to balance this as best they can with other personal interests and goals.
You might suggest taking time to smell the roses, and go from there…
Does she think that you will go ‘overboard’ with preparedness?
Especially when motivated, it is easy to go ‘full-in’ and perhaps appear as though you’ve gone ‘overboard’ – spending lots of time and energy (and money?) on a given project or goal, etc.
If your spouse is not on-board yet, you might want to consider how this appears. Maybe you should hold off on that BIG preparedness project for now and instead start with a few smaller prep projects (at least until she’s finished reading that book I mentioned earlier – whereby she will probably want you to start on that ‘big’ project right away 😉 )
Does she think you’ve been caught up in conspiracy?
Admittedly, once you’ve taken the ‘red pill’ (‘The Matrix’ reference) and the deeper you dig, and the more layers you peel back from the onion, the more it will seem like conspiracy as you speak of it to others. Many ‘truths’ have been warped in the mainstream and are often hidden behind a web of twisted messaging.
If she’s not on the same page as you yet regarding what’s going on in the world, the risks we’re facing, etc., then be conscious of the subjects you’re discussing. Choose wisely in the beginning and stick to the more obvious and ‘easier to digest’ issues at hand.
What are her interests or hobbies?
Most everyone has interests beyond just their daily lives of routine and work. Some people have yet to explore them adequately to develop into real actionable hobbies. It’s important to recognize what these are, and perhaps some of them might be purposed towards preparedness.
By encouraging your spouse to explore other interests that might apply towards preparedness (a huge subject involving many countless categories of practical interests and hobbies), it might help to sway the mindset.
What is she good at? Find a way to suggest how a given skill could be used to improve your readiness, preparedness, etc.
It can be a difficult thing if your wife or husband is not on the same page as you regarding preparedness or the mindset thereof. Fortunately for me, Mrs.J and I are on the same page, and always have been.
I’m curious though if any of you are having this problem, or if any of you have succeeded at convincing the other that there are risks out there worth preparing for. How did you do it?