Being happy is a choice you make, not a circumstance outside of your control.
What do you think of that statement?
Some people seem to be happy a lot. Others never seem to be happy.
With that said, I’ve discovered that some of the people who seem happy, are actually putting on a front. And some people who never seem to be happy, are actually happy inside themselves.
I suppose that reinforces the saying, “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover”.
But for the most part, you can just tell (if someone is generally happy or not).
What Makes A Person Happy?
To each their own, right?
Is one’s “happiness” controlled by external circumstances – those out of one’s own control?
It can be, if you let it…
Or, you might not let it. Rather than blaming external happenings, some people might try to adapt to it – or ignore it altogether.
Generally, in my view, people are bombarded all the time with negativity. The odds are stacked against us. It’s easy to be sucked in to all the bad out there. I’m guilty myself of this sometimes.
But those who are “happy”, or you might say content, are those who somehow deflect that negativity. Happy isn’t ‘material’. It’s inward. It’s a state of mind.
The Choice Is Yours
But you know what? It’s a choice that you are making. You do have a choice. You have a choice to make external circumstances your problem, or choose not to.
Sure, some problems must be dealt with. No choice. But lots of so called problems really aren’t your problem. They’re someone else’s. Or problems you really can’t do much of anything about.
Other People’s Problems
People love to make their problems someone else’s problems. That way it’s less of a problem (for them). But more of a problem (for you).
Happiness is a choice, to a large extent. It is easier for some people. But we all have a choice.
The world we live in is full of problems. Some are pretty big problems. Some we might be able to do something about. Others not so much.
We choose. Whether we realize it or not.
Simple, But It Rings True
Why am I rambling on about this? Well, it’s because I happened to come across an old comment on the blog from someone many years ago. It reads, “Being happy is a choice you make, not a circumstance outside of your control.“
It’s a simple statement. But it rings true.
We’re living in tumultuous times. A time of ideological extremes.
It’s our choice as to how much we let that affect us in our day to day lives.
Maybe if we dwell on those things too much, we’re not so happy. While some of us can’t ignore what’s going on out there (because there are major problems), we can choose to realize that what’s going to happen, is going to happen. Not much we can do about it.
And that’s just one example.
Suck it up, Buttercup.
Like I said earlier, when others try to saddle you with their problems, you can choose to say no. Essentially telling them to suck it up, buttercup. Deal with it yourself, so to speak… “Not my problem”.
And that’s just one other example. There are lots more…
So, the takeaway is it’s your choice. To be happy, or not.
External circumstances will always be there. It’s how you deal with those circumstances, or choose not to.