10 Tips For Women Versus The Predator


Among the many personal security safety tips for women against the predator, these are just a few to get you thinking about it – to remind you of situational awareness and what you might do with it to prevent such a circumstance.

1. The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. If a predator demands your wallet or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Instead, TOSS IT AWAY FROM YOU. Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet or purse than you, and he will go for it instead. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you, but everybody else will.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and then sit there doing something like texting, phoning, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

5a) Be aware: Look around you, Look into your vehicle, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

5b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your vehicle from the passenger door. Most predators attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while they are attempting to get into their vehicles.

5c.) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a suspicious person is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the store, or your workplace, and get a someone to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot for predators. This is especially true at NIGHT!

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital shot. RUN, Preferably in a zig-zag pattern!

8. Women are nearly always trying to be sympathetic: STOP – It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. To help avoid rapist assault, Walk confidently, directly, at a steady pace. A rapist looks for someone who appears vulnerable.

10. If you are in immediate danger of being raped, and you do not have pepper spray or other weapon, SCREAM “Police!” and RUN… Make a LOUD noise. If in struggle… Kick in the groin, Thrust your fingers into the eyes, Bite, Get VIOLENT, then RUN…

Okay your turn… Any further ideas or suggestions?

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  1. Try to always park under a light, in parking lots, so that when you return to your car (in dark), you can look into back seat/floor before opening car/getting in.

    I have read that it is better to scream “help fire” than “help police”. theory being that more folks will respond quickly to a fire situation than a “police need situation”.

    any thoughts on this?

    1. I always park under a light because approaching the car I can see if there’s anyone under or crouched beside it. If possible I pull through into the other parking space so I’m faced opposite from most other traffic. Faster pull-out, and I can verify if there’s someone in the front seat on approach.

      1. that is a really good point/idea..

        to pull up to the far side of the parking spot. (drive through)

        I do that as well. I feel much more comfortable being able to drive straight out. Years ago, the news had several incidents of scams where someone would pretend to be hit by a “backing up” car. Also, being able to drive straight out makes for a much quicker/safer exit.

  2. The best defense is to carry a loaded gun that you know how to use and are willing to use it. I always(always) carry a 1911 45 ACP. Such a simple solution!

  3. As a father, I taught my daughter combat arts at an early age. She went on to become a finalist in International Martial Arts competitions. The very last thing you would want to do is try to attack her. Teach your daughters those techniques best suited to handle such attacks in as lethal a manner as possible..no playing around..nothing held back. Do not warn. Do not speak. If you cannot evade, go instantly to 100% combat. Kill. Blind. Maim.

    Just be sure to cry for the police when they show up.

  4. I have taken diff kinds of martial arts for years out of all of em the best I have found is AIKIDO and KRAV MAGA I also helped teach a women’s self defense class for a couple of summers.
    The more women and kids that take some kind of self defense class the happier I will be.
    I don’t CARE how big or bad someone is if they can’t see or breathe the fight is over. We used to teach in the women’s class if your gonna punch someone you DON’T aim for their nose you try to touch the back of there head THROUGH the nose
    same thing with a punch to the stomach area you TRY to touch there BACK BONE FROM THE FRONT
    I CANNOT stress how important it is to have good situational awareness
    and don’t fall for old bullshit line YOU CAN BE A BLACK BELT IN MONTHS
    that’s just another way to keep you coming back and paying for months.
    What CAN be done is find somewhere that you like going to and see what happens and believe when I say SIZE MEANS VERY LITTLE.

  5. Another vote for Krav Maga, I am now learning HOW to practice effectively and actually use it.(I also enjoy Akkido as well, and started while in high school a LONG time ago)

    I find personal issue with suggestions of stats when being fired upon, however hit probability while fleeing away and MOVING slightly, is highly diminished by even an experienced shooter. Thugs spray and pray one of their rounds hits “something/someone” then they flee the scene.(usually)

    Absolutely, toss the car keys or other demanded valuables as FAR away as possible, make the lowlifes at least WORK in finding where it went.

    Where possible, get a firearm, get competent training, and get your concealed carry permit. You NEVER need a gun, until you NEED one BADLY!
    Make the bastards fear US for a change.

  6. If a man tries to grab your wrist, use your elbow up and over his arm it will brake his hold and immediately put you in a position to do a nose shot that will temporarily blind him by making his eyes water at that time kick his knee in a hard toward motion like you are trying to kill a large bug or stomp out a fire and run. You have hyper extended his knee and he will not catch you. Scream at this point to attract attention. If he grabs at your neck reach your arm over top and then like you are trying to pickup something on the floor turn and run. Practice these moves with a loved one in slow motion and no force but this will developed muscle memory so you can do it without thinking. Your primary purpose of any confrontation is to escape and attract help. Never try to stand and fight and never get into a vehicle or you will probably die. Just a thought.

  7. Women can learn to use a firearm (I recommend a revolver for carry) in MUCH less time than one can learn any fighting system. This just works.


    1. I agree that ANY loaded firearm, trumps just about any bi-ped predator’s attempts to prey upon his perceived prey.

  8. Have a good friend and neighbor, who asked me to assist in helping his daughter not get the shaft in purchasing her first carry hand gun. This young lady is a hardcore martial artist, and looks demure, petite and NICE, as in Pollyanna-nice.

    She can handle herself in any physical defense situation unarmed, far better than the majority of males her own age and a few years older.

    However she WANTED her own EDC hand gun, to make sure the “odds stay even” in HER favor. I absolutely agree.

    If attacked, every female should go on the hyper-aggressive towards the attacker. There is NO “fair fight”, hurt him, do want needs to be done to stop his aggression, if he dies, sucks to be him.

    Make the bastards FEAR picking the wrong prey. Serves them right.(sorry, the dad and grandpa in me is oozing out.I’m all FOR every female being gunned up and ready to go).

  9. I’m an old “lady” now. I am always uncomfortable in store parking lots. I never talk on the phone. Before I go to my car I have my car keys out and ready. I always look around and watch those in their cars and those who are walking in and out of the store. I load my groceries, etc. quickly. Get in the car, immediately lock the doors, and leave. No dilly dallying! I also look really really mean.

    I am polite, but I do not engage in “conversation”. I always wonder if I’m being distracted by one bad guy to assist another bad guy. Paranoid? Maybe.

    Good advice about watching the vehicles around you! Even if you see no one in the driver or passenger seat, they could be “hiding” behind the sliding doors. That van may not be as empty as it looks.

    Also, you should never fumble with your wallet and your money in the store. Someone is always watching to see if you’re an easy target. Stand tall, be confident and make eye-contact.

    If you’re uncomfortable, got the heeby jeebies, hairs on end, there’s probably a reason. Don’t ignore those feelings!

  10. Today I cried and I hurt inside, for the first time since I left Vietnam in March, 1968. When I saw the video he took of that beautiful 24 year old girl news reporter as he killed her. Damn, am I mad – her life was just starting and so was the life of that young man.

    Now, this is what I must say. Humanity deserves the worst possible depression, a gigantic EMP, a plague, starvation to name just a few things to bring mankind to his knees and let God rule. I guess man is the worst kind of animal there is.

    When I was in the military I was trained in some of the worst possible kinds of terror which I promised myself that I would never use. Now today after seeing what happened to her I am really struggling with myself not to let this stuff loose on the human race. I guess this feeling will pass!

    1. No Joke,
      There are times that I feel the same way. The evil that I read about and see on basically a daily basis makes me sick.

      Those 2 that were killed are the same age as my step son and daughter in law. Just starting their lives. It really gets me when I hear about any child killed by a demented POS or a stray bullet and the news says nothing. REALLY what the hell has our society become. It makes me think of my 6 yr old son and I really start to lose it.

      I think there will be a day that something like you speak will happen. Either created by TPB or by GOD.

      I don’t know if you have read about the Planned Parenthood videos out there and how they are selling aborted baby parts. That really gets me pissed. I watched 1 video when they were first relased and I couldn’t make it through it. I don’t even want to watch anymore. Our society has gone so far away from Christ it is terrifying.

      There is a reckoning coming and it will be horrific for those who have failed to follow the Christian path. Till then God help us all.

      Stay strong and pray. God has a plan for you. Your skills and wisdom may be needed to help rebuild later. Not all of society has gone down that wrong path. There are still some good people out there. Those that visit on this site are proof of that.

      Take care.
      Adapt and Overcome.

  11. Joe,
    At first I was like this guy is looney. But then I read it again and it sank in. Good one. Made me really laugh and smile. Tks.

    Note to self: carry a bag of mud in my pocket.

    Adapt and Overcome.

    1. 11HE9,

      Adapt and overcome. Very true. It is not the strongest or smartest of the species that survives, but those most adaptable to change.


  12. Always walk with your key pointing out through your finger from your fist. Always remember the soft spots; Eyes, throat, sternum, groin. Also very effective is coming down on the top of the attackers foot with yours. This works especially well if wearing high heels. Also very important- Always fight dirty. You want to inflict pain. Put your thumb in his eyes as far as possible. Kick, scream, punch as hard as you can, and do it quickly. If you don’t hurt him or her, they will hurt you. Now is not the time to be nice or worried you are going to hurt someone.

  13. In addition to training in unarmed self defense, (I opt for short classes offered by public safety departments and offered at many colleges at this time of year. Black belt level training takes years and a fair amount of money in the form of dojo dues. ) I would encourage the young lady to think of security as a multi-layered approach with many tools at your disposal.

    Some cities will not allow you to carry a handgun (Like San Francisco, CA) When I went to the Bay area in order to settle an estate, I had to travel and conduct business in the city center. I had to go through the metal detector to declare any weapons on me. My wife dropped off her keys and breezed through. I spent about 10 minutes there dropping off, declaring and getting a receipt for 2 lock-back folding knives, 1 tazer and 1 large can of CS/pepper spray/marking dye. The senior deputy running the machine asked me: “What department do you work for?” (professional courtesy-i like that)

    Predators try to avoid the hard target. Make yourself the hard target. The firearms I carry with me where legal are the simple to use, pull the trigger and shoot type handguns that I was trained on years ago. (double-action revolvers or striker fired 9 mms) Attacks never come from the front. They always come from the rear or the flanks and they are fast and violent. Remember that predators work in packs to take down an obviously hard target so do a quick scan of areas as you walk and travel.

    Watch where you park and take note of the vehicles around you/your car. (are they occupied? If so, what are they doing there?) If you are asked to help somebody out, take a fast look around before telling them “NO”. If they persist tell them more emphatically “NO”. (H-LL NO! get out of my face etc. whatever your favorite riff on this. Be creative.) The victims out there are the ones that are helpful/try to be helpful. (Onset of attack or lure into an ambush.)

    Why do I know about attacks and predators? because I still work with them 40 hours a week within a correctional environment with locked-up human predators. The Bible tells us to : “Forgive and forget” the motto of many police officers and correctional personal is: “The state forces us to forgive your transgressions by official policy and the parole system. The institutional memory and your rap sheet means I/we will NEVER forget the crimes you have commited and what you are capable of.”

    Fear the ones that are not locked up. make yourselves the hard target and pass these lessons on to the people you love in your life. It is sad that this info has to be posted Ken but it is a public service at this time of year as many children leave home in order to attend college in a place far from home.

    God bless you all and keep you safe from harm. As your children leave home, make sure they call and check in at least 1x/week.

  14. Everyone had such great comments. I just wanted to point out another (very common) situation where women (especially young women) tend to put themselves in a vulnerable position. Jogging alone… Not only jogging alone but jogging alone with you I-pod blaring directly into your ears. In this situation you could probably not be an easier target, you are already a little tired from the exercise and not paying attention. A few years ago in the small city where I reside there was a man repeatedly attacking and stabbing young college girls on a very popular running trail that runs through town. he was able to attack and stab a small handful of people over about a months’ time before he was caught. My suggestions in this situation are:
    1)If you can help it never run alone

    2)As mentioned above carry a weapon (small pistol or pepper spray)

    3)Run with your dog (they need the exercise anyway and will probably see, hear or smell an attacker long before you do and I doubt an attacker would even try to sneak up on you if you had your big dog(s) by your side)

    4)If you do end up running alone, DON’T plug your earbuds in and be aware of your surroundings.

  15. I was attacked in my younger days by a 350 lb man, unknown to me, out on bail for rape while showing him in a body shop where the repairs I needed done on my van. Physically I could not fight him when he landed on me and took the wind out of my body. The force was more like 600 lbs falling on me, but it was my words that stopped him and let me go.

    None of the physical training could have helped me nor any weapon could have stopped him being suddenly squashed like a car fell on me, pinning me and my arms helplessly, and I was physically fit and trained in basic self defense.

    My words? It was very hard to breathe but I managed to say. “My husband is a cop and he is picking me up here so you can work on my van.” Of course this was a lie, but using psychological methods may be a way out in a circumstance like this when there were no other options. I learned a lot from this incident. He was convicted of his rape charge and went to prison, but I filed no charges since I had no proof of the sexual assault.

  16. I had to go to a big hardware store this weekend. I parked in what I thought was a safe place; drivers side door facing the front of the store, no sketchy cars around, etc. When I came out, there was a big van parked besides me. I actually had a difficult time finding my car because I couldn’t see it behind the van. When I finally figured out where my car was, I could see a guy moving around in the back of the van. He may have been a perfectly legitimate guy in a van, after glaring at him, I turned around and went back to the store. He drove off as I walked back to the store. I don’t know, but I feel like I avoided a bad situation. If it wasn’t a bad situation at least I got a little more exercise walking back to the store. Whew.

      1. Thanks Grits! He was probably wondering what was wrong with that old woman. But, I’ve always been leery of big sliding van doors right beside me. They creep me out.

  17. I was told years ago that I move “like I’m hunting.” Whatever that means. If it means I stay safe, so be it.

    Always remember that predators will go for the easy target unless they’re hungry.

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